When meeting with me for the first time, try to understand the correlation between my low self-esteem and depression. Before seeing you I have already been seen by several doctors who have informed me that XXY’s are abnormal or an anomaly that my quality of life will be meaningless unless I subject ourselves to lifelong exogenous testosterone. As a Psych, you should realise how such a demeanour of my existence could well and truly knock the wind out of my sails and that I am now struggling to understand who and what I am.

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Please work with me to be that voice of reason and to reassure me it was okay to be my own interpretation of myself, work with me to unravel the harm already caused.

I need you to tell me about support groups and conferences for XXY people, or if not that, then something similar where my difference is not only accepted but encouraged.

Don’t make me feel like a freak or an anomaly.

Endeavour to understand the in-between nature of XXY and help me to fit in with society without losing my unique perspective and sense of self. This in-between existence is inexpressible to a non-XXY person yet it colours everything about my perceptions and feelings. Understand you cannot medicate or talk this state away without doing harm to my most intimate sense of self. It is an essential part of what makes me the unique person I am.

Teach me how to communicate my needs to my treatment team so that they can be met appropriately in accordance with my desires.